In April, the time of spring, I’m here to say my New Year’s resolution out loud that I’m never going to let anyone down no matter what. I know I’m quite late, well actually four months late but, weren’t we taught from probably third grade that it is better late than never?
According to the dictionary, feminism is defined as the theory of political, economic, and social equality of the sexes. We all need feminism. However, there are people who due to lack of knowledge have been coming up with terms like ‘meninist’ because there is an erroneous belief that feminists think that women are the superior sex. The belief that women are better is known as hembrismo, which is the opposite of machismo. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie once said, “Feminist: a person who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.” Feminism is basically a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.
Patriarchy is the term used to describe the society in which we live today, characterised by current and historic unequal power relations between women and men whereby women are systematically disadvantaged and oppressed. But, ask yourself, wouldn’t it be great to live in a world with no gender roles? We, as adolescents often hear things like “Women should learn how to cook”, “Why aren’t your rotis round?”, “Men are supposed to slog outside the house”, “Men are the bread winners and women are the bread makers” and so on and so forth. Why is it necessary for parents to destroy their children’s dreams and live the ‘ideal’ life? I wish we could all be ‘GIRL BOSSES’, scared of no one’s judgement and there to empower each other.
Puberty is such a harsh word which basically changes lives forever. There is good news and bad news about developmental changes of adolescence. The good news is that they’re temporary. Adolescence is a developmental stage. Like the terrible twos, it will eventually pass. The bad news is that this passage may take seven to twelve years. A teenager’s emotional development is influenced by biological, cognitive, and social factors. Our culture tells boys that they should be cool, confident and strong. At the same time, society tells them that they should be sensitive and open with their feelings, especially in relation to girls. In school everyone wants to be ‘cool’ and ‘popular’ which often creates an identity crisis. Boys can be particularly cruel with their remarks about other boys. Criticism and name-calling are often experienced in the case. Girls can hate other girls who do not conform to the culture’s idea of femininity. Girl Hate is tearing down fellow women for reasons related to insecurity, competitiveness and jealousy.
Who doesn’t want to be the popular girl in school? Who doesn’t want to be on ‘fleek’? But in this run for being ‘cool’ and ‘popular’, kids often let their peers down. Calling each other names doesn’t help to improve your social status. People love GOSSIPS. Gossiping has basically become everyone’s favourite hobby. “How fat is she! She is going no where with that body”, “Such an ugly dress! even my dog has a better fashion sense than her”, “Why are you hanging out with her? She is so unpopular” are statements which we hear on a daily basis. Why are we hating each other when we can love each other? Girl hate is indeed a serious issue. We should be happy in each other’s success, that’s how empowerment works. Insulting helps no one. Ask yourself, in what sort of crestfallen situation are you in that gives you the right to let someone down? No one deserves that kind of negativity and calling girl hate a minor issue would obviously be an understatement. Real queens fix each other’s crown and empowering each other helps to expand the reign. I’m not pointing out at someone,it is just hypothetical but there are people who just talk about Girl Love but still talk behind each other’s backs. Such hypocrites. Probably we have a lot of people living the life of Regina George. I feel that everyone just envies to be an old school mean girl. But people can change. Change is difficult to bring but certainly not impossible and everyone deserves to get a second chance. Sometimes we don’t realise that words are like swords, once the harm is done, it takes time to heal. We never know what kind of impact we have on other’s lives. So here’s a clichéd but true proverb, ‘A stitch in time saves nine’. Hence, it is necessary to change your views now for a better future.
The above blog is purely based on what I observe on a daily basis. However, I have used google and books as resources to refer.